Our state of mind constantly fluctuates throughout the day.
Whether we are having a fabulous day or a hellish one, our mood is very likely to change.
That in itself can be a gift or a limit, depending on what we decide to do about the fact that we will experience different moods all the time.
I like to describe our states of mind like being in an elevator.
When in a low mood, our little “internal elevator” will take us then to the subbasement.
There everything will appear dark and not welcoming at all. Our vision of life is likely to be quite blurry in the lower floors and we may not be able to really see things as they are.
On the first floor we may experience anger and resentment, and then pessimism and frustration moving up a couple of floors.
We will go through all sorts of feelings as we approach each floor, and then suddenly will start feeling chirpy again.
On the higher floors, we’ll be in very good form. Life will feel easy and we’ll be well disposed towards others (even those who jump up in front of us in a queue!). Our mind will be clear and allow us to make the right choices.
Being on the top floor will be just like being on top of the world. From that latitude, life will flow and everything will just fall into place.
Naturally we’ll either tend to camp on each floor or skip the very low ones in order to be “on a high” as long as possible.
If we park on each floor we end up believing that what we see is real and that circumstances determine how we feel.
On the basement or ground floor we will consider everybody and everything responsible for our misfortunes. We’ll get very self absorbed and it’ll be hard to imagine that there are other states of mind to experience, same as other floors to visit.
Camping on the top floor is also a way to manoeuvre things, as we hope never to experience lows again.
Truth is like elevators, our moods do go up and down.
It’s in our nature.
We get truly stuck though when we attempt to mess around with this simple truth.
So what to do if we have just left the attic and are heading back down to the first floor?
Not much really.
Just be graceful to yourself as you realise that you are not feeling your best and most of all, don’t give in to the temptation to make big changes or think much of whatever you are feeling.
When we are feeling down and we don’t know how the system really works, we’ll want to change what we think is upsetting us.
That would really make sense if the world worked from the “outside in”.
But since the system only works from the “inside out”, it’s only when our thoughts and feeling change that we have a different experience.
And thoughts will always change if we leave them alone!
Wrapping it up:
- We constantly experience different thoughts, feelings and moods, it’s called “being Human“
- Moods go up & down just like an elevator
- We get stuck on different floors/moods when we try & fix how we feel, without letting our thinking to naturally change
- No one really likes being in a low mood, but rather then fixing this we can learn to be graceful about it
- Only trying to be in high spirit puts additional pressure on us as we’ll mistakenly try and get what we need in the outside world!
- When feeling down, don’t make a big deal out of it but do something “good for the heart”: watch a nice movie, eat your favourite food, go for a walk….simple things always work best!
- When I’m visiting the “lower floors” of life, I personally resort to my heavenly helpers: red wine and meatballs while watching classic movies (Rocky is always a favourite at those times!), long walks in the park and play “hide & seek” with my puppy (she usually wins!)
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This post really resonates with me right now. Sadly due another actions I’m stuck in the basement. I’m hating everyone because if this and just want to shut the world out. Really not sure how to move floors
Blessings Candace and thank you for opening your heart.
So, you are “on the basement of life” and it sucks, right?
Of course it does, as you are probably having all sort of thoughts on how and why life really sucks.
And of course these thoughts will feel very real.
When we very naively forget (and we all do that, all the time) that we can only ever feel our thoughts and not the circumstances in our life, we will somehow get stuck.
As you’ve somehow decided to camp on the basement and get very curios on why it makes sense to be there right now, the world is not a happy place to be, is it?
So, as you are parked there, if you could just stay open to the possibility that yes the world at times will look like a damn waste of time, but the moment your thoughts will change and your mind will clear, things will not look the same.
Just stay open to this, while you carry on feeling how you feel and this will get you out of the lower floors.
I never have a problem with my clients telling me they are down in the dumps, cause being humans means we’ll go and visit the dumps quite a bit.
What is important to me is for them to see how, even when life is bleak, they are still part of the Universal Intelligence which will always take them back to balance and ease.
That’s how the system works and it’s a very kind system as it allows “bad feelings” inform us of how our thinking has gone astray.
So yes, I’d say enjoy your little visit to the subbasement, allow these thoughts to come up.
In the meanwhile though let yourself stay open to the possibility that very soon things will not feel the same. This may even allow you to humour things and to also realise that we all go astray, and it sucks but it gives you a bit of compassion and understanding for your fellow human beings, even the very challenging ones.
Go off and get an ice cream, or go for long walks, have a nice glass of wine…just be kind to yourself…simple things always make the best medicine for the soul! Just allow your mind to clear and life will do the rest!
I hope this helps!
By the way you have a great website and your service to the world is of great value, well done!
Bliss & Grace from My heart to Yours x